RECAP: 9 Day Vacay from Vacay

Having my honey here with me was THEE best! So much happened. HE said that this trip made him feel the closest HE has ever felt to me [how sweet*]. I thought that was peculiar though, only because I got that same exact feeling…FREAKY!!! But seriously, as long as all my feelings are reciprocated whatevs.

Here is the list I posted of everything I wanted us to do. I crossed out the things we accomplished. The others will be left for our next visit I suppose…

  1. Visit the World of Coke
  2. Order Chinese Take out & stay in bed all day
  3. Sneak into Dragoncon well we drove by but I’ll allow it ;)
  4. Go to a Bar, Club, and/or House Party We did 2 out of the 3!
  5. Move out of my expensive apartment to my new “efficient” apartment
  6. Get HIS & HERS pedicure/manicures
  7. Have a picnic in a Park
  8. Go swimming before summer ends on 9/1
  9. Visit his parents in Beaufort, SC
  10. Go to Six Flags
  11. Have an awesome grill out/BBQ session We had a low country boil! with fresh blue crabs and oysters… ugh my mouth is watering thinking about it!
  12. Booze it ALL thee way up*
  13. Paint my TV stand a chartreusey-limey-green color
  14. Get a new tattoo
  15. See 2-3 movies in one day at the Theater
  16. Get new cellphones
  17. Cook at least one home cooked meal for him a day  I cooked like twice, I’m a bad GF :(
  18. Do something touristy in Atlanta that even I have never done
  19. Go to Buckhead Beer Festival
  20. Bask in each others*Awesomeness* & try to enjoy the now & not think about the future or the past

I wish I took more pictures… but I didn’t. Next time ;) The next time I see him will be for the Marine’s ball.  I’m sure I’ll have some other fun things to add to this list. 

There’s Always A “But”

I rarely [read: not never do I ever] act on emotion only. This may sound like fabricated nonsense coming from a woman [insert sexist commentary here], but honestly I don’t. I make it a point to act after I have considered all options. I guess that’s the control freak in me. I hate not being in control [not necessarily of situations but…] of myself & outcomes that affect ME. Typing that out just made me realize how taxing that must be on me. No one can control an outcome. BUT I always try to manipulate situations to go in the direction that I have already predetermined to be best[for me].

Case in point; my relationship [read: my very long distance relationship]. Since we first met in Tampa, FL [and now that he is stationed in San Diego, CA] we knew that being in a long distance relationship would be a “temporary thing”.  That being said, I was able to [logically] justify being in THIS relationship.

Fast forward to present day [16 months since we first met] & we are both sick and tired of it. Long distance relationships are NOT fun or easy. We are both at the point where we want someone to be *here* [literally!!]. We both want to be with each other but we are kind of at a standstill. HE tells me all the time that if “HE could”, HE would have moved to Atlanta to be with me a long time ago. BUT… [There’s always a “but”] HE can’t because HE still has 14 months left on his Marine contract. So basically the ball is in my court…

BUT I have lived in GA forever!! I went to school [elementary –college] here, my “good” job is here, my friends I have known through it all are *here*. I desperately want to leave. I don’t want to be that person that never left home to venture out on her own & experience life…elsewhere. BUT, at the same time, I am terrified of leaving! I know I’m not happy here, I feel like there is just so much left that I need to experience. BUT I also don’t want to move to where HE is because… well, I guess I’m just too prideful [there, I said it!]. I wasn’t raised to chase a man & technically I feel like that is exactly what I would be doing [actually that’s what others perception of my actions may be]. Why do I care what others think!? Besides, I love the Southern Cali! I know HE wants to be with me always & moving out there would put us closer to that common goal, BUT I still just feel young & like there are other things I need to accomplish before I can dedicate my life and future to someone else. BUT I guess I’m not done being selfish…

I hate that I’m so wishy-washy. I change my mind & go back and forth way too much. BUT I can’t help it! I have to feel like I have considered ever outcome before I make a choice. It’s not rational or logical for me to do something spur of the moment “in the name of love”. There are just too many unknown factors & unforeseen circumstances that can “blow up in my face”. Maybe I should just wait until his contract is up & see if HE is really serious [but I already know HE is…] by then I will have been in an LDR for 3 years  -___-  [whaleface] and I’m definitely NOT trying to do that either!!!!!   

 BUT…

Things 2 Do: Labor Day WKND

So HE gets in about an hour :) & our 8 days vacation from vacation [ Yes, that’s how I have been living… lol] starts as soon as I see*HiM. Here is a list of everything FUN I plan on doing during his week “home”. In no particular order:

  1. Visit the World of Coke
  2. Order Chinese Take out & stay in bed all day
  3. Sneak into Dragoncon
  4. Go to a Bar, Club, and/or House Party
  5. Move out of my expensive apartment to my new “efficient” apartment
  6. Get HIS & HERS pedicure/manicures
  7. Have a picnic in Piedmont Park
  8. Go swimming before summer ends on 9/1
  9. Visit his parents in Beaufort, SC
  10. Go to Six Flags
  11. Have an awesome grill out/BBQ session
  12. Booze it ALL thee way up*
  13. Paint my TV stand a chartreusey-limey-green color
  14. Get a new tattoo
  15. See 2-3 movies in one day at the Theater
  16. Get new cellphones
  17. Cook at least one home cooked meal for him a day
  18. Do something touristy in Atlanta that even I have never done
  19. Go to Buckhead Beer Festival
  20. Bask in each others*Awesomeness* & try to enjoy the now & not think about the future or the past

Hope everyone enjoys there long wknd ;)

Facebook is the Devil

So apparently in June after one of our repetitive arguments, my BooThang got on Facebook and changed his relationship status to “Single” [Honey booboo child yes HE did!] and unbeknownst to me! I found out when I asked him to tell me what HE says when people ask HIM about ME* [I had just finished telling him about how I confessed my love for him to a friend of mine recently]. So HE proceeds to tell me about how after HE changed his Facebook status to single how everyone was contacting him like “Bro what happened” etc. Clearly this is NOT the kind of story I was trying to hear from him! So I’m thinking HE is kidding until I log on and look at his Facebook profile and see a bunch of his friends and a slew of women commenting and liking his new “Single” status [hoes gone be hoes]. At first, my feelings were so hurt! Naturally, this led to an argument…We argued for like 5 minutes max and then we got off the phone abruptly.

Two minutes after our conversation I realized how stupid the whole situation was. I mean, we already have enough to deal with, we should NOT be arguing about Facebook, [not never!]  But we were [first world problems]. I’m definitely too grown to get upset over a Facebook status. But the fact still remained that my feelings were still a little hurt and shit we have mutual friends AND this has been on the World Wide Web for like two whole weeks now!! [jerk.] So in true “Dakota is an asshole” fashion, I decided to comment on his “Single” status with, “Wait, we broke up!?… Man ya’ll lame for not telling me.” Of course this started a chain reaction of comments from his friends and even HIM. I was sitting on my couch cracking up, too bad HE wasn’t though. He was clearly still pissed from our last convo. So, I called HIM annnnnnddddddddd as expected HE is pissed to HIS highest level of piss-tivity! I let him vent.

Our little arguments are so funny to me [Especially once they are over]. Also because HE tries to refrain from yelling and cursing at me [because HE knows I don’t play that shit and will cut him] so HE tries to yell in a compassionate man voice and every now and then a curse word slips out and in the middle of HIS rant he is like “Excuse my language…” [This is so cute it makes me smile :)]. Once HE calmed down more we talked about everything [like 2 civilized adults] and even laughed at how ridiculous the situation was. Then out of nowhere HE is like “Well we don’t have to worry about my Facebook anymore because I just closed my account”. Uhhhmmmm… OK…A little extreme in my opinion. I’m used to him always taking the most drastic option when faced with a decision. I guess I’ll see how long HE really leaves it closed. But please believe that when I go visit in August HE will have to turn it back on because everyone knows it’s only fun to check in when you can check other people in with you [yup, I’m that person]. Besides, how else will everyone know how awesome and happy I am if they can’t see it via my Facebook check-ins, Photo uploads, and Status updates [Yup, this is the world we now live in].

The last two months have been so HARD. In the grand scheme of things none of these stupid little side arguments and disagreements even matter. All that matters is that I love HIM & HE loves me. We are trying to make it work until we no longer have to endure this tragedy that is a Long Distance Relationship. Twenty two days until I see HIM again. Honestly I’m just thrilled that we have future plans again.

Moral of the story: Facebook is the Devil.

No News is Good News

I’m 25. I finished school. I have my own place. I have my own insurance. I pay my own bills. IMO I’m the epitome of and independent woman. The last time my parentals gave me money was to buy a new $10 paintbrush [& he only did that because he didn’t want me to clean an old brush in his good sauce pan with vinegar]. I know who I am and what I want in this lifetime. And then I fell in love… and then I fell in love unexpectedly. It’s weird how it happens. Like a burglar hiding in an alley waiting to pounce on the next person who is walking by. I guess I just happened to be walking by. Love crept up on me when I wasn’t looking; & I’m loving it…well I loved it.

Now I’m ready for the next chapter in my life [My happily ever after] but the person I’m in love with is not [how heartbreaking is that?]. Right place, wrong time I suppose… I can think of a whole laundry list of shit that still needs to be done [on HIS part]. It really sucks, mainly because I have always looked to the future [with much anticipation] and I have worked so hard to make sure that I would be ready for my HIM [whoever it was going to be].  I did everything I was supposed to do! What was the purpose of me making certain choices in my life [working hard, playing it safe, and being extremely careful] only to feel completely out of control? I didn’t prepare myself for this situation. A situation where I’d be in love with someone who only makes decisions based on now. My future is currently dependent on someone else’s choices. It breaks my heart to have to realize that my tomorrow is dependent on an irrelevant persons actions.  I have been patiently waiting for this decision the last 8 months of my life. In total, it’s been 13 months… & I don’t want to wait anymore. I can’t. It’s not fair to me. 

I hate this feeling. I just want to get away from it all. I feel trapped. Nothing I do will have any effect on the current situation. I might as well not even be involved. So just like that Me & HE are no longer we. There’s only me now [just like before]. We decided to take a break. Well, I guess I decided to take a break. One year in and I’m pressing the pause button. He thinks I miss my freedom. I guess in a way I do want to be free. I want to be free from this predicament. I feel like I’m dying [sure this is very dramatic]. It’s literally killing me.

Before I made this decision I asked him for an update. He didn’t have anything new to say; nothing new [just the same ol same ol]. I just don’t want to be bothered anymore. I don’t want to feel bad. I don’t want to feel stupid, unimportant [the list could go on & on]. I don’t want to feel this. This isn’t the distance getting to me, nor is it me giving up on our love. This is me no longer willing to let time pass me by. There is so much I planned on doing at this age. My patience is gone. Maybe I’m having a quarter life crisis. Either way, No news is not good news; It’s nothing knew news. Which is no news at all.

Convince/Reassure

In case you’re wondering… After I wrote “Don’t Get Told” I started feeling extremely concerned. So I texted HIS momma [just to make sure HE was ok]. She reassured me that everything was OK. I told her NOT to tell HIM that I texted her. She asked if everything was ok between us… [obviously not if i haven’t heard from HIM in 2 days!].

She is always so concerned. It seems like she feels that HE was never going to have another chance to fall in love. Ever since we have met she has been doing [what seems like] everything she can do to make sure we stay together. She tells me that “all relationships have its unsavory moments but in the end it’s worth it”. She is constantly telling me that HE is worth it. I believe her, but I’m unsure of whether she is trying to convince me or reassure me. I’m not sure which one I would want her to do [convince me or reassure me]. Maybe those two words [or the actions behind them] aren’t that different. I haven’t decided which of those would be the worse…

Well since I STILL don’t have my computer back… I have to share the April Birthday trip pictures that were on my phone until I can unload my D60… Let’s call this the *sneak peak*

I really do love him… [sometime’s its unsettling how much..] Whatevs.

#Shoutout to my homegirl, the beautiful Krista. I love her, she’s like the little sister I always wanted :)

Don’t Get Told

I haven’t heard from my boyfriend since last night at around 10:00pm-ish. HE got mad at me because I was “nagging” him I suppose. I come from a long line of complainers so this may very well be a true statement. But in my defense HE has known me long enough  [12+ months!] that he should be well aware of the sure fire ways to piss me off & get told THEE FUKC off [by yours truly]. I present to you a list…

How To Get Told Off:

  1. Not keeping Your Word - If you say you’re going to do something, actually follow through & do it. “No Country for Pretenders/Fakers” over here. Don’t talk about it, be about it. Empty promises are the worst. If you tell me you are going to do something don’t make me look like a fool for believing you. I don’t understand why people have so much trouble having INTEGRITY. Follow through! How hard is that!? I pride myself on doing exactly what I say I will do. Granted sometimes things don’t work out how you planned, but if the only reason something didn’t come to fruition is because of YOU don’t get mad at me when I get mad because your LACK OF ACTION [&/or failure to gather all the necessary information] has now affected me & made me tell you off!
  2. Acting Psychic – You think you know me so well that you can predict my actions…? What ? Who Where?… No. Nothing is more irritating than someone trying to tell me what I’m going to do. Even if they are basing this assumption off of my past actions. I am not the same person I was in high school, or college. Hell, I’m not even the same person I was last week. Now if I told you I was going to do something that’s different because I always execute on commitments [eventually] but as far as you playing Mrs. Cleo & trying to tell me about myself!? Ugh please stop. No one knows me, like I know myself; you’re asking to be told.
  3. Being Judgmental – You make ill-informed judgments about me [or something related to me & my life decisions] AND then feel the need to state said opinions out loud to me!? Cease & Desist. Just because everyone has an opinion, does NOT mean I am obligated to listen to, agree with, or even acknowledge it [Especially if your opinion is about ME*]. Warning cliché phrase coming…Basically *Only God can judge me* &you’re about to get told.

Now this list applies to all types of relationships [friends, family, co-workers & lovers included]. If you do anything on this list, assuming I actually respect you or hold you in any sort of [positive] regard, then expect me to address you accordingly. I’m not saying I’m going to act crazy & just start bitching away but I will comment on the issue & provide you the opportunity to retract, correct, with hopes that you’ll do better in the future. AND I hope my friends would do the same for me because there are few things worse than being a hypocrite [IMO].

 Honestly I only address the people I actually care about. If I’m indifferent towards you, then you’ll just get cussed out or maybe I’ll ignore you completely. In my mind there is no reasoning with you, because you’re unimportant. So [backtracking now..] HE should realize that I was disappointed in his actions because I hold him in high esteem [higher than any jiggaboo I’ve EVER dated]. I was just really disheartened & irritated; AND so he got told. I guess we are going to play the “I’m not calling you first because you pissed me off” Game [A game that I am the All Conference World Champion of]. I’ll play this game. Besides HE probably needs a little space anyways. So I ain’t tripping. I’m noticing that with age my “Giv-a-fuk-ometer” is getting a little janky. Anyways for the rest of ya’ll consider this a warning, take heed, & Don’t Get Told.

a season, a reason, and some – for no reason at all.

We all know that I have to write. Writing helps me rid myself of all negative feelings and really move on so I can focus on the important things in life [like making money, gaining more knowledge, redecorating my home, and catering to my man]. 

That being said:

*Steps onto soap box*

I am a firm believer that different people are in your life for a season, a reason, and sometimes no reason at all. When I say no reason at all I’m implying that you may have once had shared interests, beliefs, characteristics or other commonalities may have linked you. But as time passed, people matured, and life starts taking place, the reasons you may have once become friends may not even exist anymore.  I also believe that certain situations occur to show you the difference between the aforementioned three types of people [again the people you know for a season, a reason, or no reason at all].

St. Patty’s day wknd was full of so much emotion [the good and the bad kind] and I feel as though I forced to reflect on certain relationships [friendships, associates, and frenemies included]. I got into a very ugly argument with a friends boyfriend [ugly doesn’t even describe this]. This is kind of funny too because this has never happened before.  I would never put my REAL [read: good, best, better, closest] friends into a situation where they would have to choose between their “man” and Me*. I mean seriously, I would choose my man every time. As stated in other posts, “You Bitter, Unhappy, Bitch I have a potential husband”.

While I was experiencing the situation [and even the next day after] I was trying to be cool not let it bother me. But when my spirit is disturbed I’m not going to let it go. I have never been a person to hold a grudge because I usually say everything I have to say right at the moment but for some reason so much was left unsaid. Maybe because everyone else was able to remove themselves from the two catalysts except me. At the end of the night people left the hotel room and drove hours to get away from these two catalysts. But I couldn’t I was struck there with no way out; forced to try to have an understanding outlook in the face of bullshit and idiocy. I also think for the sake of the “friendship”, I knew then that if I said everything I really thought that there would no longer be a friendship.

Several things about the wknd [actually our entire interaction since I met my boyfriend and we started doing double date stuff - including casual talks about relationships with each other] should have tipped me off. Hindsight is always 20/20 man. Shame on me for not recognizing the clues [who’s clues!? Blue’s clues!!!]. Let me elaborate:

Clue #1: Irulan and I were having a normal conversation about how we feel our boyfriends would do anything for us. No matter the cost or initial outlay. In the midst of us acknowledging what good men we have, SHE interrupted and was like “Can ya’ll stop talking about what your boyfriends would do for you because mine doesn’t do that, so I don’t want to hear it…”

2 things should be noted here.

  1.  Ma’am you have mentally and verbally acknowledged the fact that you are with someone who does NOT treat you how you want to be treated. You settled and now you want me to NOT talk about my man loving me like he does because yours doesn’t show you the same appreciation!? Girl PLEASE take a seat. In fact, take my seat, his seat, and her seat. Why are you with someone who doesn’t treat you how you want to be treated??
  2. You’re a hater because you don’t want to hear about other happy relationships. People who are in happy loving relationships don’t compare their relationship to anyone else’s. Different people, different situations, different upbringings, different everything! [Foreshadowing for Clue#4]. When my home girl was talking about her husband I felt so happy and excited. Not mad! Ugh!

Clue #2: Everyone in the group is in or around their mid-20’s [A great age to be!]. This is the age when most millionaires, philanthropists, and master innovators decide which direction in life they want to “try” to take first. So, we are all riding down to savannah discussing our hopes, dreams, and life aspirations. We all know that this year my main goal is to get my business [my resume service] up and running. Since I have decided to get into this [about 5 weeks] I have already made a considerable amount of money [Why? Because I am great at it]. I’m learning that a passion of mine is helping people. With the economy being the way it is what better way to make extra money and do good in the world than help someone else reach their goals. Amidst this light hearted discussion about the progress I’m making with my resume service SHE decides to chime in and let everyone know that I did her resume and she still doesn’t work in the field of her choice. -____-

2 more things to note:

  1.  That was 2 years ago. Yes, I did your resume, but Me* doing your resume WON’T guarantee you a job in your field. What I can guarantee is that I tried my hardest and used all resources and skills available to me to make your resume [which was lacking] look better and more professional. Being a hard worker, intelligent, and putting in the work when you should have by earning internships and giving yourself a competitive advantage is what gets you a job. You have a degree with no real world experience – THAT is why you do not work in your field of choice. NOT because I revised your resume, for FREE at that.
  2.  What kind of friend are you that you are not supportive of me? Never would I ever discourage others from investing in a friends business. I truly think this was jealousy. Ideas are free, have one and work towards something in your life.

Clue #3: After trying to remove the tension after an awkward dinner, a crying session at the table AND outside, I went to talk to her boyfriend. I didn’t even come at him angry or out loud. I wasn’t trying to “be in their business” [as I was later told by her]. Shame on me for trying to be a good friend.  I just wanted everyone to have a good time. An argument ensued. SHE later tells me that I was trying to take up for her and speak on her behalf; BUT I wasn’t, I was trying to tell dude that we are on vacation and lets have a good time and then also, YES, quit being a douche to your girlfriend because she is bringing down the moral because of her attitude she is having because of YOU! Before I ever got those words out my mouth her boyfriend cuts me off and proceeds to act a fool […awful]. The other details aren’t necessary [besides if I told you, you wouldn’t believe it]. Just know later that night her boyfriend said “sorry” to me.

Ahh more hindsight:

  1. Saying sorry doesn’t mean shit or do shit. It doesn’t take back the disrespect, the embarrassment, the sad feeling that a friendship has been ruined because of someone who takes and takes from his“ girlfriend”. “Saying Sorry” doesn’t mean shit to me but make you a Sorry Ass Nigga. And honestly, he was that long before this argument ever occurred.
  2. Ornery is one of the worst characteristics to have. Right up there with being a liar, a cheater, arrogant, and disloyal. If you’re ornery you will never succeed in life because you can’t take constructive criticism without blowing up and yelling you won’t get far in life. You can’t listen if you’re talking. The whole altercation could have been avoided if her bf wasn’t so ornery.

CLUE #4: After the fact, I was told, “Every relationship is different. No one’s relationship is perfect, not even yours [Dakota]”. Verbatim.

Last two things I swear:

  1.  Pardon me, but have I ever proclaimed my relationship to be the mightiest of relationships? Not Never Have I Ever. Don’t put words in my mouth. The fact that you feel the need to find the flaws in my relationship [especially when yours are so plentiful] says a lot about your “relationship”.
  2. Never would I ever compare my relationship to yours. We are not even on the same level when it comes to that. Yes, every relationship is different and has different stressors, but I PROMISE you lack of respect between ME & HE is not one of them.

Looking back, there was no need for her to choose her between her “man” and Me*… She has been doing that all along. When she settled for being mistreated, her decision was clear.  I’m pretty sure my decision is also obvious. Some people are in your life for a season, a reason, and some – for no reason at all. Certain situations occur to bring true feelings and characteristics to light. I am not displacing blame, I’m not trying to make anyone look bad. I’m simply stating my thoughts on the situation.

And with that, I’ll never address that wknd, situation, or parties involved again.

*genuflections & walks out*

friendSHITs.

friend·ship/ˈfrendˌSHip/

Noun:

1.      The emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends.

2.      A relationship between friends.

I was curious and I had to look up the definition [I know a few people that should be doing the same]. I may be a lot of things [bratty, inappropriate, selfish and blunt perhaps] but if there is one thing I am sure of; it’s that I know what it means to be a good friend. What I am struggling with is what it means to actually have good friends. I could be wrong [Actually I’m always usually not never wrong] but friendship isn’t supposed to be hard. The older I get, the more I’m realizing that friendship, a real friendship, is just as hard to maintain as the relationship you have with your significant other.

I love hard and I care way too much [this goes for friends, family, and significant others]. This is my fatal flaw; if I call you a friend of mine then you know I would do anything for you, other than share clothes and shoes [seriously though, I’d rather buy you your own – so stay out my closet]. Life is already stressful; I refuse to have people around me who are unappreciative, negative, needy, vengeful, overly critical and emotionally draining.

I have been reflecting on all my current “friendships” and now that I really think about it… I see that most of ya’ll really weren’t friends of mine at all. What kind of friends would purposely try to inflict negative feelings on me?  Do things to get back at me, or solely to prove a point? Take advantage of my caring nature, ask and ask, take and take until I am emotionally and physically drained. Who would act this way? Not a friend… I think a good friend would have paid attention and noticed that I’m dealing with my on issues and it’s unfair to add to the load. Besides, what if I was the same way to you?  

Most of the people I have been calling friends are unworthy of my friendship. I’m a great person and an even better friend.  I’m cheating myself by pretending that these relationships are real. I go out of my way to try to make sure everyone is happy and in a good mood [if I truly care about you]. In the process of catering to others I’m forgetting to cater to myself. I need to tend to my own emotions.

Since I left college I have met so many interesting new people, I think I was looking for a friend like me; a person who truly values friendship and is compassionate and caring as I believe I am. But I don’t need new or better friends, I just need to strengthen the bonds of the REAL friends I already have and rid myself of the toxic people in my life. If our friendship is stressful and draining then I want no part in it. I can’t do it anymore.  These toxic friendships are going to be the death of me.

It’s sad that it has taken me almost 25 years to realize that I can’t make everyone happy. Sheyyett, clearly I have a hard enough time keeping myself happy. 2012 is going to be the year of ME. I’m taking charge and doing exactly what makes me happy.  I’m tired of spreading myself too thin. I’ve got to stop giving ya’ll all of me; because there is nothing left for me! I’m not letting these shitty “friends” get the best of me [anymore]. Death to friendSHITs!!!

You love him, so you make sacrifices to be with the person you love. If all this was really a big deal, I think you would’ve left him alone awhile ago. You’ve known what his situation is for awhile. Give it a shot. Try it out, because if you don’t now, you’ll end up wondering what if later. Why leave alone a good person just because of his past. You aren’t perfect, and you easily could’ve been in a worse situation, and had a worse past too. Everyone is not YOU, if you want everyone you date to be like YOU, then you need to marry yourdamself cause it aint gonna happen. Everyone has a past and everyone has decisions that carry WAY over into the future sometimes.

That’s my 2 cents..More like the best dang dollar you ever got.

@KriscoKaye  | Sisterly Advice from my 1 & Only.
Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.
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The Delivery.

  • ME: Communication is important bae, but so is the delivery.
  • MARiNE: Yea, I think I have been doing well so far...
  • ME: Well, sometimes my delivery really sucks...
  • MARiNE: Yea, your delivery does suck... Dakota, you have absolutely NO tact.
  • ME: WHAT!? You just said I was doing well with the delivery??
  • MARiNE: No, I was talking about me... you need more practice.

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